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You probably read the title of this, and thought, ‘But why? That’s a pedophile.’ No, that’s a rapist, a child molester, a predator, but that’s not a pedophile. A pedophile is someone who is sexually and/or romantically attracted to minors. Nowhere in the definition of pedophilia does it say that a pedophile will harm a minor because, as stated in my previous essay about paraphilias, no paraphilia causes harm because they are simply attractions, and you can’t commit an attraction onto someone.
Most people who have harmed kids aren’t even pedophiles because you don’t need to be attracted to someone to want to have sex with them. Sex is fun and feels good, and unfortunately, some people use sex to hurt others. For someone to be a pedophile, they have to have some sort of attraction to minors. Even if the abuser is a pedophile, that doesn’t mean their paraphilia made them harm a child.
Calling every person who has assaulted a child a pedophile is at the very least puritanical, and at the very most setting us back from actually helping people. All together, it’s fascist. I know that sounds hyperbolic, but it’s not. Puritanism and fascism are two sides of the same coin. Fascists have been using purity as the grounds to attack anyone the deemed ‘degenerate’ and have used fear mongering on others to get them to do their bidding since fascism was a thing.
You’re either with me, or you’re with the dirty perverts, and if you side with the dirty perverts, then you’re next on the chopping block.
You will never be pure and righteous enough for fascists. I know it’s hard, since we all grew up in this society where anything sexual was deemed bad, but you really need to stop and think instead of having a knee jerk reaction to things you find disgusting. Why do you think it’s disgusting? Do you actually think it is, or did someone tell you to think that way?
Even if you actually do think it’s the most abhorrent thing in the world, that doesn’t mean it’s bad. Your disgust is not morality. You’re allowed to find something disgusting, but if it’s not causing harm, actual harm, not just feelings of revulsion, I have to beat that point in, then it’s not something that needs to be ended.
Paraphiles are some of the first people to be targeted by fascists, we’re scapegoats, and people need to stick up for us, or this cycle will never end.
Here are some studies showing that most people who offend aren't pedophiles, found in these posts by Dreamwidth user chronic_ally.
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Most people who have harmed kids aren’t even pedophiles because you don’t need to be attracted to someone to want to have sex with them. Sex is fun and feels good, and unfortunately, some people use sex to hurt others. For someone to be a pedophile, they have to have some sort of attraction to minors. Even if the abuser is a pedophile, that doesn’t mean their paraphilia made them harm a child.
Calling every person who has assaulted a child a pedophile is at the very least puritanical, and at the very most setting us back from actually helping people. All together, it’s fascist. I know that sounds hyperbolic, but it’s not. Puritanism and fascism are two sides of the same coin. Fascists have been using purity as the grounds to attack anyone the deemed ‘degenerate’ and have used fear mongering on others to get them to do their bidding since fascism was a thing.
You’re either with me, or you’re with the dirty perverts, and if you side with the dirty perverts, then you’re next on the chopping block.
You will never be pure and righteous enough for fascists. I know it’s hard, since we all grew up in this society where anything sexual was deemed bad, but you really need to stop and think instead of having a knee jerk reaction to things you find disgusting. Why do you think it’s disgusting? Do you actually think it is, or did someone tell you to think that way?
Even if you actually do think it’s the most abhorrent thing in the world, that doesn’t mean it’s bad. Your disgust is not morality. You’re allowed to find something disgusting, but if it’s not causing harm, actual harm, not just feelings of revulsion, I have to beat that point in, then it’s not something that needs to be ended.
Paraphiles are some of the first people to be targeted by fascists, we’re scapegoats, and people need to stick up for us, or this cycle will never end.
Here are some studies showing that most people who offend aren't pedophiles, found in these posts by Dreamwidth user chronic_ally.
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